I don’t think I have ever been more disgusted and discouraged regarding the treatment of survivors than I am today.
How people belittle, dismiss, and and turn us into hysterical people that need to be sedated. How people can tell us that “we aren’t going to get justice” because ”life isn’t fair”.
If someone almost died in a fire, they might very likely be triggered by the sight or smell of campfires, by someone pulling out a lighter for a cigarette… People would empathize. They might not fully understand, but they’d try, and they’d give the survivor the benefit of the doubt. The’d be gentle and respect that person’s boundaries.
If you’ve been the victim of sexual assault, then tough luck. You’re on your own.
That’s how you’re treated. That’s how I’m being treated right now. That’s the reality and it makes me want to burn everything to the ground.
I am not making things up. I am not overreacting. What this guy did was wrong, way out of line. I don’t care if “he didn’t know I was a survivor”. He shouldn’t have said the things he said to anyone. He should have the pay. The company should have to pay. I should get justice. I shouldn’t have to go back to work there and it should be understood why I can no longer go back there. I should get to tell everyone his name, the company’s name, and everything else that I want, without fear of getting sued myself, because it’s all he said/she said.
But that’s not the world we live in. We live in a world where the company is protected, this guy is protected, and I’m not.
I am torn up inside, and I don’t see this going away anytime soon.