do you ever use Diva-wash to clean sex toys? I looked online and keep finding "gentle soap and water" recommended and I'm not sure if what I keep around is "gentle"/suitable

I always interpret “gentle soap” as something unscented, given the okay for being used internally, having natural ingredients, etc.

I don’t see why you couldn’t use your Diva Wash for that purpose. I have a specific sex toy cleaner (it’s a spray) that I purchased from a sex shop forever ago. you can buy that sort of thing online as well, and I think they might give you more bang for your buck, but that’s the only real difference I see.

Always listen to your body. Your body knows best because it only has your best interest at heart, not anyone else’s, not societies expectations…

If it’s telling you to eat, feed yourself.

If it’s telling you to sleep, rest.

If it’s telling you to slow down, take it easy.

If it’s telling you to take a break, chill.

If it’s telling you to tread lightly, be cautious.

Your body is a friend that will always be with you.

I realize this isn't your area of expertise, but I felt like you'd be a safe person to ask this question. For the last couple of months, my libido has completely died. I feel turned on by absolutely nothing. I realize it's probably just stress, but this it's really noticeable, and it's been bothering me a lot. Suggestions?

You’re absolutely right that stress can have a huge impact on your libido. I know it can be frustrating when you are used to your sexual drive being a certain way, and then it goes away. However, a decrease in libido may just be your body saying "Hey, why aren’t you paying attention to me… well, you asked for. Now I’m gonna mess with something you will notice." The decrease of libido catches your attention, and yes that is important, but my point is that it’s a byproduct of something more important - your overall well-being You’ve got to address the issue of your stress, and how to better nurture and care for yourself, and maybe react to stress differently. 

I’m on the pill so my period should and usually comes at the same time each month, but I know that if I’m really stressed my period will be way off, and then that reminds me that I need to pay better attention and take care of myself.

And as far as lowered libidos go, I had that problem when I first went on an anti-depressant and it was so frustrating, but I realized that it was about more than just a libido, and I needed to address the greater problem. So for you, it may just be stress, but I encourage you to think about things in the bigger picture, other things that may also be affecting you, and assess any changes you might need to make in your life.

And of course, if you make the changes, and something still doesn’t feel right, I encourage you to seek out a doctor for any further help to getting you back on track where you want to be. :-) xx

Where have I been this week?

Well…

1.) I was interviewed for Teen Vogue earlier this week - not to work there, but for a piece on their website.

2.) I also got a part in a Mystery Dinner Theatre Show - got the script and performed in less than 24 hours

Wild week.

rncpriceley:

whenever some homophobic douchebag says characters like dumbledore are great representation because they can’t think of how to have an openly gay character without being a stereotype i want you to reply with this picture of captain holt

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DAVID FISHER AND KEITH CHARLES. Two non-stereotypes in one show… or is that too much to handle?

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I always had it in my head that I started Feminish around November of 2011, but maybe that’s not true? Or maybe I grabbed the url, but didn’t jump in until that time that I’m recalling. Also a possibility. I may never know, but nevertheless: Happy Birthday to the blog, and thank you to everyone who has been so involved and supportive… for however long it’s been up and running! <333

I always had it in my head that I started Feminish around November of 2011, but maybe that’s not true? Or maybe I grabbed the url, but didn’t jump in until that time that I’m recalling. Also a possibility. I may never know, but nevertheless: Happy Birthday to the blog, and thank you to everyone who has been so involved and supportive… for however long it’s been up and running! <333

Thoughts on female pedophile Lauren Morris? Is it true she was supported by the feminist community?

Literally the only person I know who came out in support of her was actingdelusionaleigh (formerly dropmycumberbritches). I made several posts speaking out about her last week. The whole thing is sick, and actingdelusionaleigh has done/continues to do so many things that do not align with feminism at all. It’s unfortunate that she labels herself as such because she is essentially everything that is wrong with everything, and she continues to hurt people. Since it became so huge on tumblr, people assume her thoughts align with feminism, when they are truly the anti-thesis.

Favorite male comedians?? (love you and your blog so much!!)

Thank you. :-)

My favorite male comedians are Hannibal Buress, Hari Kandabolu, Eddie Izzard, and although he doesn’t do stand-up like the others, Richard Ayoade.

So ignoring all the other problems associated with radical feminism, what do you think of radical feminism's anti-make-up/anti-"girly culture" position? Do you believe that men forced these ideas of femininity on women/that they should be resisted?

I think it’s silly to pretend the culture of make-up isn’t wrapped up in warped expectations for female beauty. It’s a whole (likely male-run) empire centered around us feeling shit about ourselves. Don’t believe me? Think about how acceptable it is for a man to have one or two blemishes on their face, but how a woman is instantly “ugly” or “gross” because of it, and naturally expected to cover it up.

And then there is the illusion of the no make-up make-up look. Funnily enough, a lot of work goes into making it look like you’re not anything, and when they say they want a girl who wears a “natural look” with “not a lot of make-up”… they aren’t talking about a fresh and clean face, they are talking about the no make-up make-up look, and they may not even know it. That’s how powerful and influential the beauty industry is.

Now, I don’t see anything wrong with make-up if somebody wants to wear it. I’m certainly not anti-make-up or anti-femininity, and I don’t believe in bullshit claims associating femininity with frailness - that’s just flat out misogyny right there. Make-up can be a fun form of expression when it’s not something you feel assigned to. With that being said, I don’t think wearing make-up is inherently feminist. It’s simply a personal choice. 

And then there is the matter of red lipstick. We hear men’s polarized opinions about red lipstick incessantly - how it’s either “so sexy” or “so over the top, in your face, and obnoxious”. I say whatever to the men who think it’s sexy, and when I hear that men don’t like it, that makes me want to wear it more often. So along those lines, I do think wearing “unnatural” or stand-out colors of make-up, like having black, bright purple or blue lipstick could be considered radical in some ways. It’s like Fuck you. I don’t care what you think, this is all for me. I don’t care if it packs a punch, because so do I!

feedmyaddictionnow:

kingofwesteros:

Publicity done right in an anti-rape campaign: double-page spread, pages glued to one another. After the reader forcefully separates them, the image above is revealed with the caption “if you have to use force, it’s rape”.

THIS IS BRILLIANT

Sometime I get concerned that people only take to understanding what is literally in front of them - so here, they might take away or infer that physical force is the only from of rape.
But with that being said, I do really appreciate the power of this message. I imagine it sticks with the reader for a long time, and hopefully starts a dialogue.

feedmyaddictionnow:

kingofwesteros:

Publicity done right in an anti-rape campaign: double-page spread, pages glued to one another. After the reader forcefully separates them, the image above is revealed with the caption “if you have to use force, it’s rape”.

THIS IS BRILLIANT

Sometime I get concerned that people only take to understanding what is literally in front of them - so here, they might take away or infer that physical force is the only from of rape.

But with that being said, I do really appreciate the power of this message. I imagine it sticks with the reader for a long time, and hopefully starts a dialogue.

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