all of this hate you're posting about cilantro is ridiculous herbists like you need to calm the fuck down ugh *unfollowed*

DING DING DING We Have a winner! *pushes all the awards in your direction*

Not ALL cilantro.

You’re right. I’m so sorry for my bigoted generalization. ;-)

Many of your posts seem very bigoted against males. Have you ever considered that you are what you hate? Because until you stop your blatant bigotry, you are.

feminishblog:

Show me where I’m bigoted against men, and I’ll show you where you missed the point entirely.

Until I go around assaulting men the way they have me, going around harassing and feeling entitled to their bodies as they have mine, etc. then no, I am not bigoted against men at all. In fact, I don’t think that word means what you think it does.

I hate cilantro, therefore, I am cilantro.

#PlotTwist

No is not only a good word, it’s a great word. It’s a full sentence that communicates your boundaries and wishes. There should be nothing up for interpretation. No leaves no room for it.

Many of your posts seem very bigoted against males. Have you ever considered that you are what you hate? Because until you stop your blatant bigotry, you are.

Show me where I’m bigoted against men, and I’ll show you where you missed the point entirely.

Until I go around assaulting men the way they have me, going around harassing and feeling entitled to their bodies as they have mine, etc. then no, I am not bigoted against men at all. In fact, I don’t think that word means what you think it does.

Major safety concern: Gmail

feministbecky:

cease-and-de-cis:

nymphinfamy:

“Google recently started combining contacts in peoples’ address books and individual profiles for their reckless and dangerous Plus profiles: between my Android phone and my Gmail account, my friends’ work names and real names — and contact information! — had started to be combined by what Google “thought” was the same person. Google outed them in my address book, and it combined profiles of mine that I didn’t want connected as well.”

You guys, this is critically important: if there’s ANY chance that your personal and sex worker gmails might be linked, get off gmail and other google products immediately, before gmail “helpfully” outs you.

Full article here

This is also a concern for any trans people who go by two different names because they’re closeted. 

Or for anyone who needs to keep two parts of their life separate for any reason (abusive ex, etc.)

VERY IMPORTANT! Does anyone know if your information becomes inaccessible if you delete the account? (or if there’s any way to combat this)

Want to Un-Learn Your Socialized Niceness and Reinforce your Assertiveness?

feminishblog:

Practice By Using the Following Phrases When the Opportunity Arrises:

"I’m not interested."

"(Please) Leave me alone."

"I’d rather you not."

"That doesn’t interest me at all."

"You need to stop."

"No."

"That’s not what I said."

"I don’t owe you/anyone an explanation."

"That’s too personal."

"I would like some privacy."

"That doesn’t work for me."

"I’d like to be by myself."

"I’m going to leave now."

These words and phrases might evoke thoughts of reacting to someone bringing unwanted sexual advances. But how can we expect girls and women to be able to say no in such extreme circumstances when we’ve been socialized to avoid confrontation in such “small” circumstances as when a man is talking us when we’d rather be left alone?

You can practice exercising and nurturing your assertiveness (and confidence) by incorporating phrases like this in your day-to-day life.

I was thinking of this today, because whenever any women had to leave the workshops to run to the restroom, they apologized, and also apologized before asking any questions. I noticed this and made it a point not to say “I’m sorry” before asking my question, and even then, it was so hard not to.

tw: abuse mention I'm so sorry for the awfulness of people that you're being faced with. I don't know if it helps any to say (because, of course, you shouldn't have been attacked and called out to "prove" that your abuse was really abuse), but I can relate, in a way. I understand that feeling of your abuser being "your rock", even though they're also your abuser. I'm actually seeing my abuser behind the backs of most of my friends, because I don't want to be reminded that I "should know better".

This was such a beautiful and honest fucking message. (I’m getting too emotional now)

I support you. I wish you safety and happiness, love and strength.

Please let me know if you ever need anything. xx

you are absolutely right not to play the who-has-it-worse game. i never understand why people want to play that game, anyways, you don't get anything by winning.

TW: Rape

Exactly. You win nothing. And the other thing it does is make people with “less” abuse feel like they needed to endure more to be taken seriously within the community of survivors. 

We already have that within our society regarding rape - a mentality that if you weren’t raped “violently” then it doesn’t really count as rape.

It’s a dangerous spiral, that once again, fucks over victims by erasing their traumas, and lets off abusers and rapists.

Note for Readers: I don’t want this blog to be a downer. I delete a lot of generic pointless hate, because that doesn’t need to be dragging down my page or your dashboards. And it certainly doesn’t warrant any of our time.

However, lately there have been messages, like the recent anon’s, that I feel have been on a different level, have a purpose, and needed to be addressed. I don’t want those people around if that is what they are going to think about and feel towards me, so I wanted to nip it in the bud, in a way that ignoring it would not suffice.

Thanks for sticking around, and I love you guys and gals and everyone else! <333