No is not only a good word, it’s a great word. It’s a full sentence that communicates your boundaries and wishes. There should be nothing up for interpretation. No leaves no room for it.
Major safety concern: Gmail
“Google recently started combining contacts in peoples’ address books and individual profiles for their reckless and dangerous Plus profiles: between my Android phone and my Gmail account, my friends’ work names and real names — and contact information! — had started to be combined by what Google “thought” was the same person. Google outed them in my address book, and it combined profiles of mine that I didn’t want connected as well.”
You guys, this is critically important: if there’s ANY chance that your personal and sex worker gmails might be linked, get off gmail and other google products immediately, before gmail “helpfully” outs you.
Full article here
This is also a concern for any trans people who go by two different names because they’re closeted.
Or for anyone who needs to keep two parts of their life separate for any reason (abusive ex, etc.)
VERY IMPORTANT! Does anyone know if your information becomes inaccessible if you delete the account? (or if there’s any way to combat this)
Want to Un-Learn Your Socialized Niceness and Reinforce your Assertiveness?
Practice By Using the Following Phrases When the Opportunity Arrises:
"I’m not interested."
"(Please) Leave me alone."
"I’d rather you not."
"That doesn’t interest me at all."
"You need to stop."
"That’s not what I said."
"I don’t owe you/anyone an explanation."
"That’s too personal."
"I would like some privacy."
"That doesn’t work for me."
"I’d like to be by myself."
"I’m going to leave now."
These words and phrases might evoke thoughts of reacting to someone bringing unwanted sexual advances. But how can we expect girls and women to be able to say no in such extreme circumstances when we’ve been socialized to avoid confrontation in such “small” circumstances as when a man is talking us when we’d rather be left alone?
You can practice exercising and nurturing your assertiveness (and confidence) by incorporating phrases like this in your day-to-day life.
I was thinking of this today, because whenever any women had to leave the workshops to run to the restroom, they apologized, and also apologized before asking any questions. I noticed this and made it a point not to say “I’m sorry” before asking my question, and even then, it was so hard not to.
Note for Readers: I don’t want this blog to be a downer. I delete a lot of generic pointless hate, because that doesn’t need to be dragging down my page or your dashboards. And it certainly doesn’t warrant any of our time.
However, lately there have been messages, like the recent anon’s, that I feel have been on a different level, have a purpose, and needed to be addressed. I don’t want those people around if that is what they are going to think about and feel towards me, so I wanted to nip it in the bud, in a way that ignoring it would not suffice.
Thanks for sticking around, and I love you guys and gals and everyone else! <333