deesnuda asked: I told a guy that I kind of like, pretty bluntly that I've never kissed anyone before. He didn't believe me at first and went "But you're 17!" I told him "Yeah what's the rush?". Then he just told me he was surprised I would state it so bluntly and sure of myself. I don't really understand why this would surprise him?
A lot of young people try to fluff up their resume, if you will, with regards to what they have or haven’t actually done sexually/romantically. I suppose it depends on what kind of reputation you want, but when I was in high school I know certain guy friends of mine would make sure it was known around school that he has slept with three or four girls, when in reality he hadn’t slept with any, but he was self-conscious, wanted girls to like him, and thought making up experiences he hadn’t yet had was the way to do it. The same thing happens with girls, but I’d say it’s more split as to if they are trying to fluff or conceal certain experiences.
Also, with young women being sexualized and maturing/developing physically at younger and younger ages, I think a lot of the growing up process is rushed, some childhood is exchanged for alleged maturity, which often gets confused with sexual or romantic experiences around that age.
Basically, that was my analytical response as to why that conversation probably went the way it did. My personal opinion is that I think your response was pretty kick-ass. I know you weren’t being snappy with him, and he doesn’t sound like he meant any harm by it, but you handled yourself really well, and made an excellent point.
My parents were really strict with regards to me and dating, because I was their first daughter, so I didn’t start out particularly early either. However, since that first kiss, and everything that’s happened up til now, I have had more than my fair share of experiences: some amazing, some forgettable, some weird, some incredibly hot, some crazy, some bad, some romantic as hell, and everything in between that I missed. There is plenty of time for that in your lifetime, there’s no need to rush into anything if you’re not feeling it. I don’t think you’ll be short of any opportunities when you decide to start looking. :-)
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